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Like many of you, I read I Kissed Dating Goodbye when I was a teenager. At the time it had a profound impact on me, in a positive way. While I was still in high school and beginning life as a young adult, its teachings made sense. I was part of a church culture that was also affected by the influence of the “anti-dating” craze that was sweeping the (evangelical) Christian church at large, thanks to I Kissed Dating Goodbye.


By my mid-twenties, however, I began questioning the teachings in IKDG. By 28, I was SAYING goodbye to “kissing dating goodbye” and the swell of Christian rhetoric this way of thinking encompassed. 


In Australia, I vented my frustrations with friends about how the church was handling—or not handling—issues facing their growing single demographic, and these dialogues of mutual commiseration continued as I moved to Vancouver, Canada. I felt an increasing burden to do something about it, to address in some way the pain I was feeling, and saw in those around me. Instead of writing a thesis to complete my MA, I thought I could make a documentary. This would give individuals who felt they were left without a voice an opportunity to be heard, and shed light on issues left in the shadows, with the hope that the church and church leaders might be better equipped to serve their diverse communities when it comes to these sensitive issues.


Why? Because I, too, survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye.


It was here in Vancouver when I met Joshua Harris. He too, was taking a sabbatical of sorts from his role as a teaching pastor at a large church to undertake graduate theological studies at Regent College. I had come from the corporate sector in Australia; he had come from a church in Maryland. After several months of being casual acquaintances through interactions at school, I shared my vision for this documentary. We continued to dialogue about the idea, but it took Joshua several months of careful consideration before he finally agreed.


So here we are! Joshua Harris, author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye, is partnering with me, a 31-year-old single, Christian female, to make a documentary.


I really hope this film will be a vessel for blessing in the lives of those who were affected in any way by I Kissed Dating Goodbye. 


We look forward to sharing more with you about this exciting documentary as we near release!

- Jessica.

(Summer 2017)